I am frequently torn…
between the creative, go with the flow and spontaneous side of me, and the organized, safe and simple one.
between wanting to be UBER productive, and desiring to seize the moment.
between being upfront about things, and being passive aggressive.
between seeing everyone's point of view, and standing strong on what I think.
between wanting to please everyone around me and doing what I want.
Sound like 2 different people? Nope, it's just one. Its me. And no, I am not bi polar! I am simply realizing that I have many different sides to myself that are brought out in different stages, situations and relationships. The tricky part, finding a balance to make up the general sum of who I am! Yep, I am still working on that one. Please help me if I ever stop :)
Showing posts with label people pleaser. Show all posts
Showing posts with label people pleaser. Show all posts
Monday, May 14, 2012
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
P + P + P = ...
I am finding out that being a perfectionist, people pleaser and {new} parent is not an easy combination!
As we all know, things in life never actually go PERFECTLY...so those endless efforts to strive for that are often stressful and overwhelming. Oh, and making everyone happy, well thats not so likely either. Trying to balance these two factors of my personality has been hard, and the failure to do so has often left me unsettled.
Add being a new parent to the mix, now thats even more challenging! Especially, if you get all wrapped up in trying to do EVERYTHING right. If I thought it was hard not to compare myself to others before, its even harder now! Instead, I need to remember to be grateful and appreciative of what I have and what I am. And…that i am doing the best I can and that is all I can do!
So... my {Daily} battle has now included things like:
-Soaking up each and every moment with my baby girl (instead of crossing just one more thing off the list)
-Sitting and starring at her play (instead of accomplishing something else while she is occupied)
-Telling myself its OK if today, she did not get enough tummy time or fell asleep in my arms 7/10 times (instead of feeling guilty)
etc, etc…I think you get the picture!
So onward with the days ahead, and hopefully I can relax and be at peace with my efforts of my job as a new mom as well as a wife/ woman…and try to set aside my perfectionist/ people pleasing tendencies.
As we all know, things in life never actually go PERFECTLY...so those endless efforts to strive for that are often stressful and overwhelming. Oh, and making everyone happy, well thats not so likely either. Trying to balance these two factors of my personality has been hard, and the failure to do so has often left me unsettled.
Add being a new parent to the mix, now thats even more challenging! Especially, if you get all wrapped up in trying to do EVERYTHING right. If I thought it was hard not to compare myself to others before, its even harder now! Instead, I need to remember to be grateful and appreciative of what I have and what I am. And…that i am doing the best I can and that is all I can do!
So... my {Daily} battle has now included things like:
-Soaking up each and every moment with my baby girl (instead of crossing just one more thing off the list)
-Sitting and starring at her play (instead of accomplishing something else while she is occupied)
etc, etc…I think you get the picture!
So onward with the days ahead, and hopefully I can relax and be at peace with my efforts of my job as a new mom as well as a wife/ woman…and try to set aside my perfectionist/ people pleasing tendencies.
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